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I know I know, there’s never a “right” or “set” time that is made for us to lose our virginities, well except for our honeymoon nights and stuff like that if you believe in that.But I’m about to be 20 years old this April 2010, I’m a female, and I’m still a virgin.[virgin in the case that i’ve never had vaginal intercourse. i’ve done everything else though, in terms of foreplay and what not]I’m proud of myself for making it this long, and I used to hold it extremely high.I’ve been dating since i was about 15 years old, I’ve had 5 boyfriends, and all of them have been from (the shortest) 8 months to (the longest) 1 year and 2 months.All the guys I dated, when I was dating them, happened to be virgins as well, so no pressure.Now however, about 9 months ago me and my boyfriend of 1year and 2 months broke up with me.for a long story short, i was and still am absolutely heartbroken over it. I really thought he was The One. and he sure let me believe I was right too.Anyways, I now find myself….regretting, that I didn’t lose my virginity to him.I’ve never been the one to want to “wait until marriage” to lose it, I’ve always been more like when I felt I was old enough, an age I’d be proud to tell my future children so they could try to live by my example….and when I was truly in love.and I know I’m young, but I truly know I love/loved/always will love my last boyfriend.But like I was saying, I regret not losing it to him because at least in my heart I would know that I lost my virginity to someone that meant alot to me. and regardless of what happened between us, I know I meant alot to him as well.But now as I’m trying to move on, I find myself refraining from dating guys because it’s very rare that guys my age are still virgins, so in that case here I go having to explain to some guy about why I’m not going to have sex with him and have to deal with him not wanting to committ blah blah. whatever.[funny story, this guy that liked me all throughout highschool, I finally gave him a chance, we hung out for about a week and werent even officially DATING and one night I had to fight him off me for hours denying his request to have sex. needless to say HE never called/texted after I left the next morning. I didn’t lose any sleep over that jerk though.]anyways, now I’m talking to this guy….who I don’t know HOW many people he’s slept with, but I know it’s a….decent amount? haha.and for some reason, where i normally would care, i really don’t anymore.I just need someone to help me get my mind off of my last ex because it’s miserable living down the street from him and seeing him and his new girlfriend who TOTALLY isnt right for him all the time together. and him pretending like i dont exist.This new guy I’m talking to….I really don’t see us being together for the long run…like getting married and stuff, and usually if I don’t see potential there I don’t even waste my time….but he’s really cute…and he doesn’t make me FORGET about my ex, but he gives me something to focus more of my time on so thinking about my ex isnt always in the front of my mind.Idk…I wouldn’t mind having sex with this new guy….after a while of dating him and what not….i say like….3-6 months if it lasts that long??…then have sex….but….seeing as how i’m already saying i dont think it’ll last….i’m scared to lose my virginity to him, since i have always seen it as a big deal…and then i’ll wake up one day and feel differently about the situation and realize the way i’m feeling now was just a phase or something….and then i’d feel horrible for losing it to someone i never really really deeply cared for…[sorry this is long but i want you to understand where i’m coming from]For some reason I just want to go ahead and have sex with someone so I can get the initial “losing my virginity” over with so that when i move out of town in the next year it wont be such a big deal for me to start dating guys that want to have sex.I mean I have morals and standards and I’m not going to just sleep with any and every guy that walks around….I guess I’m just scared I’m going to regret it.I always hear that whole thing about how “nobody ever regrets waiting”…but like i said, i kind of regret waiting because i wish i would have lost it to my last ex.I know it would have been harder to have lost it to him and then we break up, but….i guess what i’m saying is i already would have crossed that huge important line in my life, that it wouldnt be so hard to go on and live my life…which we all know sex is a part of human nature so that’s a part of our lives and moving on to new partners and stuff….blaaah. help.advice please?

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