Open Question: Single mom (or single parent) success stories in the military?
Long Term Care - - Posted on November, 20 at 12:11 am
My martial situation is up in the air at this point and we have a 16 month old son that I have been singularly raising. My husband is an enlisted reservist, but he is not really in the picture as far as parenting goes.
The military (specifically the Navy) is something I have always wanted to do. I’m in college now, but due to my unclear marital future, I have declined to apply for any of the scholarship or commissioning programs offered by the Navy to students. I simply don’t want to commit to a long-term contract when I don’t know whether or not I’ll have a spouse to help care for my son if/when I have to leave for training and/or deployments.
Are there any single military moms out there who have had success? I’m especially interested to hear from women who have made a career out of the military and/or have gone on to become officers.
I’m considering finishing college and then looking into reserve options. I’m not sure what my options would be as an officer in the reserves. I need to call a reserve recruiter still, but before I waste their time, I’d like to hear from some single parents.
I know the military requires you to have a back-up guardian. I’m not comfortable with leaving my child with my in-laws or my husband for more than a few weeks at a time for some extenuating reasons that I’d rather not get into. It’s not personal; it’s more of a medical thing.
My own family is in no position to pledge long-term care taking abilities.
Single military parents… how did you make it work? What variables made military life and parenting a success?
Yes, I understand that my situation makes the military highly unlikely. However, I would like to know in situations where single parents HAVE managed to balance a military career with single parenthood, what were the factors that made it work?
Did it all come down to helpful family members? A solid family care plan?
Or did you have cooperation from the military in trying to work out a plan that took your unique situation into account?
Wow, okay. Let me reiterate: I’m not looking for any “sitters”, nor do I expect the military to find one for me.
I also realize that joining the military would involve long periods of training and deployments, and that I couldn’t “scam” out of them.
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