Open Question: I have two men in my life and am not sure what to do..please give me your advice?
Long Term Care - - Posted on July, 30 at 1:07 am
I was in a relationship with a man for a time ( we were friends for a couple of years and he was actively pursuing me the whole time but I wasn’t sure and kept it at friendship until I finally found my affections growing for him and we moved into a romantic relationship) We were only in the relationship for a few months when we started seriously talking about a long term future together. He confessed he was in love with me and I loved him but wasn’t sure I was in love with him. I did however, come to the point where I was seriously thinking this man could be the “one” and did see myself taking the next step i.e. marriage at some point in the future. Anyway….cut a long story short..we had an argument one day about the future and something he didnt want to discuss. He then ran away…and I tried to call him a few times over two weeks but he completely ignored my calls….I ended up letting it go but was very hurt and confused as I had no explanation as to what went wrong. 4 months later I sent him an email to see if he wanted to catch up for coffee…He immediately responded and said yes and when we caught up he apologised for everything and wanted to start over and seriously talk about our future together….My dilemma is this…..I am seeing someone else at the moment. I really like him, but am not in love with him….but I don’t know what could develop for us…however, I also still care deeply for the man who left me and want to see if things could work out…My ultimate question is this…I don’t want to hurt anyone but I would like to see them both in the short term because I need time to work out my feelings. Also, maybe it’s selfish but I don’t want to give up the new person if the man who has just re-entered my life….suddenly runs away again in a few weeks. Is it okay and reasonable to keep seeing them both and not tell either of them…or am I being really selfish. I don’t want to hurt anyone unnecessarily but is it too dishonest not to say anything…? I would really appreciate your feedback….In a quander..
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